Abhi is a 23-year-old software engineer from Bangalore. He completed his bachelor’s in electronics and communication from IIIT Delhi and has been living in Bangalore for more than a year to pursue his career.
Abhi’s native place is Sangrur in Punjab, where he lived with his parents and elder sister until he was in 10th grade. His father is a civil engineer, and his mother is a teacher. He shifted to Patiala for two years for his intermediary school before moving to Delhi for his undergraduate studies.
He adds that he has a supportive family and tries to be as open as possible with his mother, as he is pretty close with her. Abhi has read many books since childhood and enjoys playing sports as well.
“We were the last generation to enjoy playing on the streets and reading paperback books instead of being on video games and computer screens. I have read over 250 books and literature is one of my biggest passions.”
Abhi started his writing interest in 12th grade, and his college friends also appreciated his poetry, which gave him the encouragement he needed. He began participating in open mics and theatre activities. He was also the president of the theatre society in the final year of his college. Even though he didn’t pursue his interest in a mainstream career, he still spends quality time with his pen and paper during his leisure time.
During the fourth semester of college, Abhi faced a few challenging situations, making him feel exhausted and stressed. He felt his education wasn’t taking him forward, and he was confused about his career. It was also the beginning of the pandemic lockdown.
“I was facing multiple things all at once. I expressed my feelings to my childhood love and faced rejection; my grandmother passed away, and I was grieving, and to add to all these, the lockdown made things more depressing.”
He explained that even though he was close to his family, he couldn’t feel free to open up everything to them. He was struggling with a mix of strong emotions, and he recollects the emotions being conflicting from time to time as well.
When Abhi told his parents he needed therapy to deal with his situation, they asked him to communicate with them instead, which Abhi wasn’t comfortable with. He remembered his college’s well-being cell, which offered services related to student’s mental health, such as counseling. When he contacted them, he found out about their subscription to the YourDOST platform and decided to try it.
Abhi spoke with Ms Ananya Ranganath and shares that she was helpful. She made him examine his emotions and thoughts and asked him specific questions to help him understand the depth of his conflicting emotions.
He elucidates that he carried a lot of guilt for ruining his relationship with the people he cared for deeply. He explains that it was due to his anger issues induced by the stress he was going through. He kept regretting them and shared them with his therapist.
The therapist employed the empty chair technique to help him address his emotions toward some people in his life and other mindfulness techniques to make him feel relaxed and calm.
Abhi explains that through the sessions and the activities, he could accept his situation better and finally let go of the things that weren’t in his control.
“As Bhagavad Gita says – to let go of something, first you must embrace acceptance. I could see myself begin to let go after therapy, which showed I had come to terms with the things life brought me.”
Rating himself 2.5 out of 5, Abhi thanks his counselors for listening to him and helping him through a difficult time. As he works on standing up for himself, we are happy to be a pillar in his ongoing journey of improving himself.
Abhi’s Warrior Tips:
1.“Life is long and hard, so don’t forget to find happiness in the little things daily.”
2.“You might feel life isn’t worth living during a challenge, but trust yourself and stand firm; you will see things change.”
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