“When the wind did not favour her, she stood in the storm and embellished her sails.” – Elizebeth Edwards.
Meet Sudha, a 36-year-old woman who decided to take the wheel and sail her ship of life as a Senior Partner of Shared Services at Capillary while also being a wife and mother at home.
She was born in the rural area of Krishnagiri, Tamilnadu, and had a different childhood experience than the other kids. Sudha explains that she did not grow up with her parents or two brothers. She lived in her relatives’ house, which was in a town for her education.
“As we were in a remote village with underdeveloped schools, my parents wanted to give me the best and sent me to town. I had nobody to connect to, and I used to be scared that if I complained, my parents might take me back, and I couldn’t continue my studies.”
Until her first year of pre-university college, Suddha stayed in her relative’s place. During her second year, she shifted to a rented room. From then on, she started to cook and take care of herself.
Sudha moved back to Krishnagiri for her undergraduate studies in medicine and became a lab technician. She eventually got married and settled in Bangalore in 2008 with her husband, who works at Mahindra Aerospace. She has two daughters, the elder one in 4th grade and the younger one in nursery school.
Sudha struggled to balance her personal and professional life as her kids grew. She explained that she couldn’t reach out to elders on both sides of the family.
Sudha learned about her company’s partnership with YourDOST for employee well-being and sought assistance from a therapist on the platform.
“It was exhausting thinking and sorting everything in my head. I had no sisters with whom I could share my feelings, and we couldn’t talk to our brothers freely in our families. I also don’t have many friends.”
Sudha explains that when she was worried and low, she had many questions that needed clarification, and reaching out to YourDOST gave her hope of getting answers.
She elaborates that the experts on the platform were easy to talk with and made her feel good. Sudha was overwhelmed with managing her daughters and work, so the therapist suggested ways to find a work-life balance.
“We began by planning my day in the session. It started by preparing the cooking essentials the night before to help start the day easily. The counselor also suggested I give my kids small tasks such as peeling vegetables or grabbing the utensils, as it could be a time to bond and spend time with them.”
Sudha adds that it was easy for her to share certain things with the counselor rather than her family as they could understand her unbiasedly. The therapist also suggested Sudha go for short walks with her kids to bond and destress. They made Sudha realise that having enough time for herself as part of self-care is equally important. Sudha, understanding the impact it can have on her life, started giving a part of her day to herself.
“I decided to hire a house help for the chores so that I can spend time with my kids and help them with their studies. Taking support helped me save some time for myself.”
Sudha explains that these suggestions reduced her stress and made her less overwhelmed. She rates herself 4 out of 5 for the steps she takes every day to improve her life and thanks her counselor for helping her get to where she is.
We are highly spirited to be part of Sudha’s journey of finding balance and understanding ways to manage her life.
Sudha’s Warrior Tips:
1.“Every problem has a solution, and life has ups and downs; be brave and face them.”
2.“When you have negative thoughts, seek help from a professional or at least talk to your loved ones.”
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