Sahil is a 31-year-old software engineer working at a corporate firm in Bangalore
He was born in Maharashtra, and his family includes his parents and an elder brother. Sahil lived in his native town till he finished high school and college.
“We were a typical Indian middle-class family where I was open to my mom, but when it came to dad, I had a disciplined relationship with him. Since we were always short on the financial side, I was taught to spend less and mindfully while growing up.”
Sahil recollects being an obedient kid in school who focused majorly on academics and couldn’t pursue a lot of extracurricular activities. Although Sahil regrets this after he grew up, he adds that it was also because his family could afford only basic education. It was during his college years that Sahil was exposed to the world he had always wanted to see. He started developing an interest in music and pursued it.
Even though Sahil’s career path changed later in life, he developed a deep interest in computers and technology as well. This helped him avoid discrepancies and gain sole satisfaction with the job opportunities he took up. He loves his job and pursues his other interests in his free time.
Amidst this, Sahil went through a difficult phase in his life when he and his partner separated after seven years of relationship. Sahil explains that the break-up did not go well, and everything fell apart for him. He recollects losing hope and lacking confidence in life.
“I couldn’t focus at work, and life turned upside down. I really needed to speak about this to someone, and I also wanted it to be discreet.”
Sahil remembered his colleagues in the HR department announcing the company’s tie-up with YourDOST for mental well-being as part of their employee benefits. Sahil thought about using the platform to speak to someone. Sahil started by surfing the experts and connected over voice call sessions.
“Honestly, I never considered myself to be someone who would sit for therapy, so the initial sessions felt like Mt. Everest. I was talking to the experts just for the sake of doing it. Then, I connected with Ms Ishita Attri, and only after a few sessions, I began feeling that it would be worth it and I could get better.”
Sahil elaborates that the counselor gave him the proper guidance he was hoping for, and he opened up about his underlying emotions about his break-up. He shared with Ms Ishita how low he felt and told her that he couldn’t function normally in his daily routine.
Even though he knew the reason for his moods, he felt clueless and couldn’t understand why it was happening. He wanted to figure this out and get rid of the sadness he had in him. Sahil says that hearing him out, the counselor shared with him some articles and resources to make him aware of the process of grief.
Once he knew the five stages of grief and equipped himself to face those stages, she gave him weekly journaling activities. He was made to write about the good and bad things about his personality, etc, between the sessions, which they would discuss during the next session.
Sahil adds that the counselor suggested he seek a physical coach to build his confidence back and improve holistically. He explains that even though he began the session to overcome his relationship problems, it became more about understanding himself better.
“Eventually, the greatest thing I learned through the session was acceptance. Acceptance towards a situation and about who I am right now.”
He elucidates that the realisation helped him proceed ahead in life and taught him to deal with one’s past. Understanding the benefits of therapy, Sahil continued with Ms Ishita even after he moved on from the breakup to keep improving himself. He thanks his counselor for not just listening to his issues but also helping him incorporate the terrific techniques she taught him in therapy.
“I’ve been speaking to her for more than a year now. She never hesitates to correct me when I’m not following her techniques properly. If not for her, I wouldn’t have progressed this far.”
As Sahil rates himself 3.5 out of 5, he works on himself to be better every day, and we are glad to be part of his journey.
Sahil’s Warrior Tips:
1.“There’s no point in delaying a process; seek help when the need arises.”
2.“Don’t give up on something without trying; Trust the process to benefit from it.”
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